You can spend hours each day looking for great tips on a happy marriage. You can read all sorts of “how to” books on setting up and keeping a good marriage on track. Heck, you can find 10 easy tips to a successful marriage on face book.
Everyone is searching for the “secret”.
Before Mr. Right marries a new young couple, inevitably the question is posed by one or the other, “What’s the secret to a happy marriage?” People in the congregation, whisper quietly, “Do you think it will last?”
When you stumble across a “happy marriage” your interest is tickled. Get out the microscope, let’s look.
What actually is making this pure goodness work for 48 years?
Here’s the deal, there is no secret. It is free for the taking.
Oh, were you hoping it was a magical secret? Were you hoping it was buying a big house and having a special car? Oh dear, were you hoping it was posting pictures of how good you look together on a fancy vacation?
Sorry to burst your bubble. Or not.
Maybe bursting the bubble gives you hope?
Maybe just maybe, anyone can have what they have?
Every single day the wife loves her husband. She does little things. Oodles of little things. Yes, I can say a oodles. 5 or 6 nice things a day, times 365 days, times 48 years…………. you can easily do the math. Every single day, the husband wants to show his wife how much he appreciates what she does & how much he loves her. So he does 5 or 6 nice things for her.
It’s a dance.
A lovely, swirly dance.
She irons his shirts. He takes out the trash. She makes dinner. He does the dishes. She shares a joke. He shares a wink. She was sick. He washed her hair. He was sick. She made him soup. He fixes the latch on the backdoor. She sews a button on his favorite shirt. She is in the hospital. He never leaves her side.
Everyone wants what they have. Oh yes they do.
When you look under the microscope, it is not as fancy as you thought it might be.
It’s an everyday thing. You can see it in their eyes when they look at each other.
They wear grubby clothes and do yard work together.
They wear warm clothing and shovel snow from the driveway together.
They watch fireworks and hold hands in the dark.
They discuss politics, kitchen cabinets, their beautiful daughter, their cats, the lawn, the town celebration. They discuss money and religion. They discuss the price of heating oil and the winter coming. They discuss travel and trips taken. They discuss & disagree on Hockey. All this talk over homemade pie and hot steaming coffee.
They clean up and go out for a wonderful German meal and don’t mention to anyone why they are dining out and smiling.
Just being around them, you WANT what they have.
Can you imagine being told, I LOVE YOU, every single day, 365 days a year for 48 years?
Can you imagine being respected and valued and adored and well taken care of every single day, 365 days a year for 48 years?
The love and respect they have for each other is palpable.
You sort of feel like if you get close enough to them, some of that goodness will rub off.
Good news for me. They taught their little brother how to be an amazing husband.
Good news for our daughter in-laws. Mr. Right passed on the secret to a great marriage.
I bet if you “work” their secret, some of the goodness will rub off on you, too.
Heartfelt Congratulations to my wonderful Brother and Sister in law.
Here’s to you & your celebration of pure goodness!