While ordering coffee, my girlfriend and I stood side by side. The cashier said, “are you together?” I answered, yes, forever and ever.
I realize the cashier was asking if the order was on one ticket. I honestly don’t know why I answered like that. I guess, saying it aloud makes it more real.
Do we worry and fret about each others kiddos? You bet. We celebrate kiddos successes and we help when things are off-balance, too.
Do we worry and share about our husbands & not getting enough sleep & not taking stress seriously & our families & people who are meanies……um yeah. It’s sort of how we have survived.
Both of us are somewhere in our 50’s and have been friends since we were 12 & 13 years old. We have shared good stuff and not so good stuff.
Sometimes we are “dumb heads” and let too much time go between meetings. Sometimes, we forget to ask the other for help.
We are still at it. Still sharing. Yes, we pay for coffee for each other. Or we pay separately. Or one pays 3 times in a row and the other pays next time. Or we drink coffee out of big chunky mugs at home. It sort of isn’t the important part of us meeting. We seriously don’t want to waste time figuring out who pays for or who makes the coffee.
We have huge issues to shyly share or rant loudly about. Sometimes our hearts are broken and just being together, maybe it is the warm coffee, magically seals the cracks and puts us slightly back together again.
The beauty is neither of us keep track. For a while, I had too many “not so good stuff” to share. Before my bag-o- dodo, she had a few years of sharing messy days.
Get it? Some days I pay for coffee, some days she does.
We celebrate the good stuff in our lives. Honestly, we do. It’s just when things are rosy and upbeat, you don’t feel the need to hold someones hand. Usually you are so busy, cheering and dancing with jazz hands you forget to talk it all over with the other.
All of a sudden, you hear someone hurt your friend………. and golly gee, that “sister girlfriend thing” kicks in and you want to protect your friend, hold their hand and take them under your wing.
If by under your wing, it means, make plans to wear jeans, bring the husbands along and order a beer or two and some casual, comfort food like burgers and fries and just “be” with them. Than yes, that’s what we are going to do.
I think all our hearts and souls need those kind of people in our lives.
One of the things I just wrote at the top of my 2017 “to-do” list was,
Make an effort to be with friends. Be more present in their lives and invite them to be more apart of ours.
I feel like I am stumbling, off balance. I need to steady myself and go have coffee with a friend, more often. I want to make more of an effort to help her/our kids. I am feeling much too isolated. I need to be with her, just so we can be …. oh and drink really good coffee.
In this together,
forever and ever
ps. and I don’t just love her because she gave the most fan-tab-u-lous , housewarming/Christmas, amazing gift. What I love most? Is that she KNEW I would be smitten in love, with “Pearl,the Polish pottery chicken” who came with a carved Polish wooden egg, of course!
love, love, love
her and the chicken