Cancer sucks. There, I said it. I know, one shouldn’t use the word sucks. It’s impolite and certainly, we taught our sons to avoid using it if they could and to come up with a different word. Knowing that a vacuum cleaner does indeed “suck” up dust & dirt, they chose to use the word “Hoover” in place of it. It’s hard not to laugh when you hear one of them say “These lima beans hoover!” However, sometimes it’s an entirely appropriate word and when applied to the word cancer, it’s become almost eloquent.
The truth of the matter is everything about cancer sucks. People learn that the reason they have it in the form they do is that their immune system was at best damaged, at worst broken. They learn it’s rarely the “luck of the draw” and that they are primarily responsible and that sucks. They learn that chemotherapy and radiation also suck and they often don’t work well if at all and can even cause new cancers. They learn that there is an alternative – natural healing – but when they tell anyone who wears a white coat about natural healing, they learn that all of a sudden those doctors want nothing to do with them. The very people they entrusted with their health and well-being turn their backs on them and that sucks.
Then they learn that they can actually become healthy and suddenly the world sucks a little less. They make changes, oh so many changes in their lives and their lifestyles and slowly, ever so slowly they start to feel better. Not great, but better than before and so their condition sucks a wee bit less.
They discover people like Bill Henderson, Chris Wark, Kris Carr, Dr. Michael Gregor, Dr. Marc Sircus, Dr. Josh Axe, Dr. Johanna Budwig, Paul Stamets, Ty Bolinger and so much more who are very direct about the crazy idea that you can heal yourself! Yes it’s slow and yes some of it is not much fun and some of it is particularly unpleasant but from anger and more than a little despair, they learn the word hope is still out there waiting for them. One magical night when getting ready for bed, they realize that a whole day has gone by without thinking about how their life because of cancer sucks. On that day, life gets infinitely better and not only does anger fade, but hope grows!
Such has been Daleen’s life for the past 5 years. She went from anger at the medical profession, who abandoned her when they learned she was going down a natural path to wellness, to acceptance. Acceptance that some folks make a living by keeping cancer myths alive to acceptance that the “pink” crowd makes a living by deceiving people into thinking that buying pink boxes of Jell-O or pink buckets of Kentucky Fried Chicken helps “the cause.” Acceptance that cancer (in particular breast cancer) takes a long time to develop and that medical decisions need not happen with lightning speed.
Together (as her support person) we’ve learned that cancer isn’t a fight, it’s a process. Cancer is your body’s way of telling you that something, usually many things, are amiss and you better pay attention. Change your life. Change your lifestyle. We’ve all heard the phrase “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over but expecting different results.” So it is with cancer. If you live the same lifestyle you did before you were diagnosed with cancer after being diagnosed, you can expect the same results.
So, this week we celebrate 5 years of living. 5 years we thought we didn’t have. 5 years of learning how not to get angry and 5 years of learning acceptance. We’ve met some of the most wonderful examples of kindness and acceptance along the way and we thank them. We’ve learned to be thankful. We’re thankful that each and every day if a gift, it’s ours to use as we see fit. We hope we’ve learned to use each gift wisely.
Tomorrow I’ll discuss the fun we had with the medical “establishment”, gee what a learning experience that was!
Hoping you celebrate today, know we will celebrate with gusto!