good manners, grace, respect

one glass of water

If you every complain about not having enough storage, might I suggest embarking on painting all the cabinets you have?   Jeepers, it takes some time.  Yes, the magic of television has the kitchen cupboards painted in a matter of a 60-minute television show.  No, in real life, it does not happen like that.

This past weekend, while painting cabinets, a locksmith arrived at our home to install a new front door lock and handle.

I got down off the ladder, grabbed an icy cold sparkling water, said hello, shook his hand and offered him a cool drink.

His English was very good, however, he asked what is this?  I thought he meant, what was in the can.  Mr. Right told him like soda only water.  He was confused about us giving it to him.

 NO ONE HE HAS EVER WORKED FOR HAS EVER GIVEN HIM A GLASS OF WATER. 

I will let that settle in your throat &  heart.  I instantly felt ashamed of my fellow-man.

SERIOUSLY? 

I got tears in my eyes.

The media today would have you to believe that huge groups of people are treating each other with disrespect.

Wrong.

APPARENTLY, one person by one person we as a society are not treating each other with basic kindness.

I quietly went back to painting, he got to work.

Of course, within 45 minutes, his work was completed and I had worked up a mighty good head of steam.

20170710_081205-1_resizedWe thanked him, paid, shook his hand and sent him on his way.

As the locksmith got in his work van and began to drive away, the first thing I said to Mr. Right, “I’d give a prisoner a glass of water.”

APPARENTLY, some folks have not been taught common decency, common courtesy, basic human manners.  APPARENTLY, the locksmith who works a 40 hour plus week, (I have no idea how many customers that is per day) has been to MANY homes, businesses, people locked out of cars (doesn’t count, I am assuming you don’t have a cold beverage in your purse awaiting a locksmith) …………………… and NO ONE has ever offered him a drink of water! 

Shameful.

Shameful.

Allow me to enlighten you.

When someone (guest or worker) comes into your home, you offer them a beverage.   Is that one of the first things you do when someone comes to your office?

When someone comes into your home, you offer them a beverage.

Did you teach your children?

Did you teach your children? Okay, not too late.  Tell them right this moment.  I’ll wait for you to come back.  YES, it is that basic and that important.

I will not share with you how many “friends” homes I have been to and never offered a glass of water. People might be embarrassed to see their names printed.  Oh, and that would be rude on my part.

From this moment on, NO excuses!  My mother never taught me that.  Oh, he wasn’t going to be here long.  He is just cutting the lawn outside.  It isn’t that hot out.  They just stopped by for a moment.  I didn’t have anything to offer.  I saw she had her own water bottle while she repaired our fence.

NO, I don’t mean the casual comment, “Would you like a drink?” Leaving the responsibility up to the guest in your home.  You are putting them in an awkward position.

I am going to be very clear here.  HAND the person a glass of water or ice tea or hot cocoa or hot coffee and OFFER the person the drink.  

Hello, welcome to our home, would you like some water? (AS YOU ARE HANDING IT TO THEM)glass of water

Are you treating your fellow man with gracious behavior?

Monday seems like the perfect day for a rant.

In this together, friends.  Let’s try to treat each other with kindness.

Please try harder to be nice.

 

 

 

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cooking, garden, health, recipe, recipe comfort food, respect, Uncategorized

garbage broth

I keep a plastic bag in the freezer.  Whenever I have 2 mushrooms left over or the stems of some cleaned bok choy, half a carrot, 1/4 onion, extra green beans and on the list goes, I toss into the bag.   Until the bag is packed full, I just keep adding to it.  You know?  One tomato left in the basket, 2 stalks of broccoli…. and so it goes.

To be honest, I am learning that not everyone cooks.  So if you don’t have a “garbage bag” full of bits and pieces, odds and ends, you can always use fresh.

I like the idea of truth telling.  I am getting brave.

I prepare dinner at least 26 or so times a month.       Mr. Right and I are worth excellent home made food.  It is my privilege to prepare and cook delicious meals that are without chemicals, additives and dyes.  Our health is vital and of value to us.

I do have other hobbies and an actual job, so I do appreciate a smart cooking short cut.   I actually mean, I don’t cook 28 days a month.  More like 12 to 15 days.  I always make two or three sides/meals worth at a time.  For example today, I made 3 cups of broth for our Risotto tonight. Then I froze two packages, 3 cups each for another time.

20160915_103520-1_resizedTo make the broth, I use a large stock pot.   I added one chopped onion (save the skin and ends for the broth) 4 cloves garlic, one stalk of celery, a splash of peanut oil and I cook until soft and it all browns a bit.  Next, I added the entire bag of “garbage” from my freezer and the ends of the onion, celery and carrot from what I am simmering.  Added 9 cups of filtered water.  I toss in 2 Bay leaves, 6 peppercorns, oodles of fresh herbs from our garden and some real salt.

Cook/simmer for 1 hour.

Strain through a sieve.  Cool.

I package into freezer bags, 3 cup portions.  Take up less space, freeze flat, then store like books in your freezer.  20160915_122720-1_resized

Hey, 3 cups is the exact amount I need to make an amazing mushroom Risotto tonight for supper!

While that is cooking, I already had the cutting board  & knives out.  So I chopped some mushrooms and tossed it with some vegetables and put it all into the slow cooker.  Creamy dreamy mushroom soup headed our way.  20160915_113414-1_resized

The dehydrator is filled with sage today.  I wish I could make this post have a scratch n sniff option.  Our home smells so earthy, savory…. just lovely. 20160912_112906-1_resized

In this together,

Here’s to our good health and wellness.

Love to hear what’s cooking in your neck of the woods.

 

 

 

happy marriage, love, respect

48

You can spend hours each day looking for great tips on a happy marriage.   You can read all sorts of “how to” books on setting up and keeping a good marriage on track.  Heck, you can find 10 easy tips to a successful marriage on face book.

Everyone is searching for the “secret”.

Before Mr. Right marries a new young couple, inevitably the question is posed by one or the other, “What’s the secret to a happy marriage?”  People in the congregation, whisper quietly, “Do you think it will last?”

When you stumble across a “happy marriage” your interest is tickled.  Get out the microscope, let’s look.

What actually is making this pure goodness work for 48 years?

Here’s the deal, there is no secret. It is free for the taking.

What?

Oh, were you hoping it was a magical secret?  Were you hoping it was buying a big house and having a special car?  Oh dear, were you hoping it was posting pictures of how good you look together on a fancy vacation?

Sorry to burst your bubble. Or not.

Maybe bursting the bubble gives you hope?

Maybe just maybe, anyone can have what they have?

48th_wedding_anniversary_keepsake_gift_porcelain_plate-rb5f9d979287e4cc59f6a68f8671338aa_z78kn_324Every single day the wife loves her husband. She does little things.  Oodles of little things.  Yes, I can say a oodles.  5 or 6 nice things a day, times 365 days, times 48 years…………. you can easily do the math.   Every single day, the husband wants to show his wife how much he appreciates what she does & how much he loves her.  So he does 5 or 6 nice things for her.

It’s a dance.

A lovely, swirly dance.

She irons his shirts.  He takes out the trash.  She makes dinner.  He does the dishes.  She shares a joke.  He shares a wink.  She was sick.  He washed her hair.  He was sick.  She made him soup. He fixes the latch on the backdoor.  She sews a button on his favorite shirt.  She is in the hospital.  He never leaves her side.

Everyone wants what they have.  Oh yes they do.

When you look under the microscope, it is not as fancy as you thought it might be.

It’s an everyday thing.  You can see it in their eyes when they look at each other.

They wear grubby clothes and do yard work together.

They wear warm clothing and shovel snow from the driveway together.

They watch fireworks and hold hands in the dark.

They discuss politics, kitchen cabinets, their beautiful daughter, their cats, the lawn, the town celebration.  They discuss money and religion.  They discuss the price of heating oil and the winter coming.   They discuss travel and trips taken.  They discuss & disagree on Hockey.  All this talk over homemade pie and hot steaming coffee.

They clean up and go out for a wonderful German meal and don’t mention to anyone why they are dining out and smiling.

Just being around them, you WANT what they have.

Can you imagine being told, I LOVE YOU, every single day, 365 days a year for 48 years?

Can you imagine being respected and valued and adored and well taken care of every single day, 365 days a year for 48 years?

The love and respect they have for each other is palpable.

You sort of feel like if you get close enough to them, some of that goodness will rub off.

Good news for me.  They taught their little brother how to be an amazing husband.

Good news for our daughter in-laws.  Mr. Right passed on the secret to a great marriage.

I bet if you “work” their secret, some of the goodness will rub off on you, too.

Heartfelt Congratulations to my wonderful Brother and Sister in law.

Here’s to you & your celebration of pure goodness!